Female escorts may be the most sought after, but there are many more women looking for a man than there are men.
This can be a confusing proposition for those who don’t know the male role, says Sara Ellingham from the University of NSW.
So she decided to explore the topic for a talk at the National Women’s University in Canberra.
‘It’s like the opposite of sex’, she says.
‘There are all these things that go on, but the male is doing it.
‘I would have thought that would be the case but it’s not.’
There are a lot of things that the male may not be doing.
They’re not trying to take the lead, they’re not leading the way, they are not leading and that’s great.’
In a survey of 1,200 male students aged between 14 and 24, Ellingh heard many men say they would never ask for sex because it would be inappropriate.
But she found one young woman who was willing to do it and said it was ‘probably the best thing for her’.
‘It would have been a little bit of a shock to me because I’ve been told I would never do it,’ she says, adding that the way she felt about sex had changed since the age of 15.
‘Now I think it’s the most exciting thing in the world.’
If the male was there, I think I would have taken the same approach.’
She also believes that the sexual desire in the male would not be as strong as it is with the female.
‘If it was me and a guy, I would just get out of the way and let him go,’ she said.
‘In a way, that’s the best way.’
For many people, female escorts and the male body are just two sides of the same coin.
For some, the female is an object that they can manipulate, or that they don’t understand, and the man is an instrument of power.
For others, the woman is their protector and provider.
Ellingman’s research suggests that the differences in the roles between men and women can be traced to these cultural and biological factors.
‘The female is the most powerful of all the female creatures,’ she tells The Conversation.
‘We can’t separate what the female does and what the male does.’
‘If the male were there, the male wouldn’t be there’ She suggests a key to understanding these differences is to ask how they function in the context of their culture.
‘So if you look at the Chinese culture, the males are in charge, they know how to use women and they control them.
‘But if the male weren’t there, if they weren’t around, the Chinese women would not do what they do.
‘That’s how it works.’
‘It is like a puzzle piece’ It is a puzzle that has baffled scientists for decades, but one they are working on, says Dr Andrew Nisbet from the Centre for Sex Research at the University, Sydney.
‘Sex is like the biggest piece in the puzzle,’ he says.
He says there are similarities between the roles of women and men in both cultures.
‘When we talk about the role of women in the West, the most common way they are depicted is the femme fatale,’ he explains.
‘They’re not as physically dominant, they can’t be as violent or as manipulative as the male, they have a less complex relationship with their partners.
‘This is why we often see femmes wearing dresses and makeup, they seem more feminine.
‘You could imagine this kind of male-female dynamic and that is what is the role for women in China, that is why the Chinese have femmes.’
In China, there is a gender balance in many different parts of society.
The roles of men and female differ in some ways.
In the United States, women can earn more than men, have equal access to education and healthcare, and have the same access to housing, healthcare and food.
‘For men in China it is like having a female body,’ Dr Nisbbets says.
For example, women may earn up to 60 per cent more than their male counterparts, while in China women earn only 15 per cent of what men earn.
But Dr Nissbets says the gender balance is not all there is to the difference.
‘Men do have a certain amount of power in the workplace, but they’re also at the mercy of women.’
Dr Nisdbet explains that in China’s traditional culture, men have a greater degree of power than women.
‘What is really interesting about China is that for a long time there was this kind and beautiful Chinese narrative about men being superior to women.’
That is something that was taken as the truth, but it has not been the reality for a very long time.
‘These stereotypes have been passed down through generations and the way they’ve been transmitted has changed a lot over time.’ ‘Women’s